Monday, March 21, 2011

Take it all in stride...

My mom has told me that I have to tell my brother I am gay before I move to the coast. Which I totally understand.

She also wants me to tell me grandmother. Which I totally understand.

And I don't really have any concern over telling either of them, really.

She is urging me to, so that she feels as though she is free to talk about me with her friends as a proud mother - something she wants to do, but refuses to do until the rest of my family knows. Which I totally understand.

When I initially had this discussion with her, I felt like she was forcing me to do something that I don't really want to do. I don't agree with the philosophy of 'coming out', as I have stated before. And I don't really want to tell my brother - though he has changed considerably over the past couple months and our friendship has improved drastically.

And then I thought it through again.

My mom wants me to confirm to my brother and grandmother that I am gay so that she can talk about me with pride.

I am a very fortunate young man.


  1. I pray we soon arrive at the day when coming out will no longer be necessary, when people will accept us for who we are, just as we are.

    In the meantime, my thoughts are with you, Neal. I suspect what you have ahead of you won't be easy, but unfortunately, it is a necessary part of our experience if we are to live our lives fully.

    All the best. (And may I encourage you to write about how it went--if you wish.)

  2. You are so lucky...I hope everything goes well and that you're able to get this done with sooner rather than later.

    Here's to taking the difficult leap to a open and full life.